Over the years I’ve learned to not give a f*ck about most things that is happening around me.
But how can you say such a thing? you ask. You don’t care?
No, I do care, deeply, probably more than ever, I just don’t give a f*ck. There is a very subtle difference. Let me explain.
The world wants us to live by their rules and standards, to fit in as it were. But by doing so we also marginalize ourselves, turning the potential for an amazing uniqueness and originality into a bland and boring normalcy.
Being normal is not a thing, it doesn’t exist. It’s just a statistical average and as with most statistics it’s pretty worthless to live life by.
Just because nine of ten startups statistically fail doesn’t mean that yours will have the same kind of odds. Just because people with the same disease as you have might die doesn’t mean that you will. Just because… you get it!
“Care of what other people think, and you’ll always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
I think the quest for normalcy is holding people back. Instead go for weird, eccentric, unique, and original because that is what we truly are as human beings, from our DNA to how we view the world and what we can create.
Letting go, which is a skill I wish I had learned in school (fat chance), of the idea of being normal opens the door to your own uniqueness. It’s giving yourself the permission to do things just for yourself, in your own way.
Buying stuff and doing things because we think that other people will give us what we need most in life – being heard, understood, loved – it’s an exercise in futility. No one really cares and if they do, they care for the wrong reasons.
Thinking about what people might think is making you their prisoner – for life. It directs your time, attention, and creative energy from your own uniqueness to the very worthless exercise of being accepted and fitting in.
It’s actually when you become yourself, when you create clear boundaries, when you express yourself from your most authentic place that you will receive the true respect, admiration, and love you deserve.
For which you should not give a f*ck because it will, again, pull you back into being this needy, fearful, and codependent person.